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Prenuptial Jitters
Did gay marriage destroy heterosexual marriage in Scandinavia?
By M.V. Lee BadgettPosted Thursday, May 20, 2004, at 4:28 PM ET

This week, Massachusetts began handing out marriage licenses to same-sex couples. Amid the cheers, there are the doomsayers who predict that same-sex weddings will mean the end of civilization as we know it. Conservative religious leader James Dobson warns that Massachusetts is issuing "death certificates for the institution of marriage." And conservative pundit Stanley Kurtz claims to have found the "proof" that the institution will see its demise: Gay marriage helped to kill heterosexual marriage in Scandinavia. Indeed, Kurtz has become a key figure in the marriage debate: He and his statistics have been taken up by conservatives to support their argument that gay unions threaten heterosexual marriage. He has shown up in Congressional hearings, lawsuit filings, newspapers, debates, and anti-gay marriage videos across the country.
But Kurtz's smoking gun is really just smoke and mirrors. Reports of the death of marriage in Scandinavia are greatly exaggerated; giving gay couples the right to wed did not lead to massive matrimonial flight by heterosexuals.
Currently there are nine European countries that give marital rights to gay couples. In Scandinavia, Denmark (1989), Norway (1993), Sweden (1994), and Iceland (1996) pioneered a separate-and-not-quite-equal status for same-sex couples called "registered partnership." (When they register, same-sex couples receive most of the financial and legal rights of marriage, other than the right to marry in a state church and the right to adopt children.) Since 2001, the Netherlands and Belgium have opened marriage to same-sex couples.
Despite what Kurtz might say, the apocalypse has not yet arrived. In fact, the numbers show that heterosexual marriage looks pretty healthy in Scandinavia, where same-sex couples have had rights the longest. In Denmark, for example, the marriage rate had been declining for a half-century but turned around in the early 1980s. After the 1989 passage of the registered-partner law, the marriage rate continued to climb; Danish heterosexual marriage rates are now the highest they've been since the early 1970's. And the most recent marriage rates in Sweden, Norway, and Iceland are all higher than the rates for the years before the partner laws were passed. Furthermore, in the 1990s, divorce rates in Scandinavia remained basically unchanged.
Of course, the good news about marriage rates is bad news for Kurtz's sky-is-falling argument. So, Kurtz instead focuses on the increasing tendency in Europe for couples to have children out of wedlock. Gay marriage, he argues, is a wedge that is prying marriage and parenthood apart.

I think some of the things that are said in this article are completely ridiculous. I mean, I know where these people are coming from with the “end of civilization” stuff because if almost everyone in the world became gay, there would be no more babies and then the human race would just deteriorate. But obviously not every person in the world is going to be gay. Because if there are people in the world who disapprove of gays, it’s pretty safe to assume that they aren’t going to become gay any time soon. But still, don’t you think that saying “Massachusetts is issuing "death certificates for the institution of marriage."” is a little harsh?

What I Know, What I Want to Know

Gay Marriage. Is it right or wrong? Is there a right to wrong to it? I know that most people don't approve of it. That's OK, its your choice. I personally have no problem with it, but others are not so understanding. I'm pretty sure that in some states same sex marriage is illegal. And I know that no matter were you are it is looked down upon. But what is the big deal. If two people really love each other, shouldn't they have the right to get married. And wouldn't keeping them from that right take away basic freedoms? And who's to stop the government from making being Gay illegal? Well that's what i want to find out. What are the governments views? How far are they willing to go? How much of a difference in the world are they making by doing this? Why do people disapprove of Gays?

What else besides their sexual preference is any different from anyone else? And you cant say that Gays act differently than normal people. Everyone is different and using our differences against us is unfair judgment. What is also unfair is how gays are blamed for many things that they have no control over. This is something else i want to find out. How many things have they been rightfully and wrongfully accused of? Why are they mistreated? They say that history repeats itself and i think that's completely true. Isn't the way most people discriminate Gays a lot like the ways they discriminated blacks?

You decide for yourself, and I'll keep my own opinions.